Whatever it is that makes you scared, addressing your fears head on can be a great way to reduce anxiety and boost your confidence and self-esteem.
Of course, there are some fears that you don't need to face. For example, there’s no need to overcome your fear of jumping out of a plane (unless you really want to). But situations you’re faced with regularly, that leave you anxious and scared, when left unaddressed, can fester and affect your sleep, confidence and relationships.
So how do I go about facing my fears?
Identify what makes you most scared or worried on a regular basis and write this down. Try to tackle only one issue at a time.
Then think about what it is about this situation that petrifies you the most. Perhaps it’s the fear of failing or looking silly, or it could be the fear of physical pain.
Ponder over what is the worst imaginable outcome of facing this fear. And then write down what could be the best possible outcome.
Now visualise yourself performing your biggest fear, succeeding and enjoying it. Think about exactly how you would feel, how you would act, and how others around you would respond. Try to imagine every small detail.
Finally, tell someone close to you what your fear is, and what step you are going to take to address this fear – give them a date by which you hope to have taken this first step.
If your biggest fear just seems too large to face in one go, think about how you could make it more manageable. If your fear is meeting new people, think about some easy conversation starters, or ways to make the situation easier for you by joining a group with common interests for instance.
Nothing bad can come from facing your fears – your confidence will improve and you’ll feel invincible. So come on, what are you waiting for?
Written by Ruth Tongue